Well I'm just bursting with excitement to introduce you to Miss February, my migraine buddy, Fran. In fact, she probably needs no introduction. You may already know her as the author of the mega blog Skullsandponies, you may have already read and even watched her various entries on this very blog, here & here! Seeing as it's February, the supposed month of lurv, I asked Fran some questions about relationships and migraines. And seeing as my longest relationship thus far is with a furry four legged chap called Chipster, I decided the wise lady Fran could probably offer more advice than moi. Enjoy.
It was in my final year of University and I was sat outside my experiment rooms (I was doing a Psychology experiment and busy experimenting on willing students!). I’d been there for hours and my head was just pounding and I felt so sick. It was the worst headache I had ever had and Ibuprofen just wouldn’t touch it. Back then I thought it was just a bad headache but it was definitely the start of my migraines.
Best migraine top tip anyone’s ever given you?
I think discovering triptans and feeling like the GP had been keeping an amazing secret!! But also – aspirin in coke. That’s been a life saver – especially when I had medication overuse headache.
Stress. Even the smallest bit of stress is likely to trigger a migraine – and as a fairly anxious person this doesn’t make life easy.
Favourite migraine comfort?
Chocolate – and being bought chocolate when I’ve had one!
What’s the worst assumption that’s been made about you and your migraines?
That there is a cure and it’s somehow my fault that I haven’t found it yet. People seem to get very cross if they suggest something and you don’t do it – which often means you have to try out a whole bunch of crap that you know won’t work just to prove people wrong! Everyone seems to know someone who had migraine and was magically cured by acupuncture/not eating chocolate/eating magical unicorn hearts – and they get so annoyed when they can’t cure you on the spot! The idea that a condition might not have a direct cause and could be chronic is not a good enough answer to most.
What are you most proud of doing despite living with migraines?
Managing to set up my own business and make it successful (even though migraine was the reason I did this as I couldn’t handle a full time job!)
Well I’d start by getting the Tories out of government…..
What's the most helpful thing that your partner has ever done for you during a migraine?
This might sound cheesy but just being supportive. He never moans or complains when, yet again, he comes home from work and I’ve got a migraine. He never makes me feel like it’s my fault – he is unrelenting in his support and that makes my life so much easier. He is just consistently supportive and really – you have no idea how much of a difference that makes. Plus this one time I had a migraine I was hungry but really sensitive to light, so had to eat in the dark, and he came and ate his dinner in the dark with me. That’s true love.
|Fran with her handsome fella!|
What advice do you have for other migraineurs in relationship?
Be open and honest and talk about everything. Understand that it’s hard for them too when you have to cancel plans last minute or lie in a dark room. They are often the ones that get the brunt of it too, as often you’ll push through wherever else you can but expect them to be ok with you cancelling on them, or being too ill to just hang out. Make time to prioritise them – after all they are the ones that put up with us migraneurs day in day out! It can’t be easy.
My name is Fran. I am a 28 year old freelance digital marketing consultant. I live by the sea with my lovely boyfriend and little ginger and white kitten. When I’m not having migraines you can find me reading, crafting and getting lost in my imagination.
Thank you so much Fran for agreeing to be Miss February, and for your top relationship tips. I shall be more considerate of Chipster's needs. Kidding. I know many readers will be able to relate to what you've said and be extremely grateful for the nudge to see life from their partners view. I also think it's incredible that you've managed to set up your own thriving company, despite all the obstacles that these buggery migraines throw in your path. I just know it's going to be a huge success.
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